I love holidays. My whole family loves holidays...but man, holiday spirits in this family have taken a serious wallop these last couple of years.
Mother's
Day in 2019 was the last holiday that both my grandparents lived to
celebrate. After that, they were both put in a care facility (most
definitely not by choice, and not without a good fight), and we were
obliged to clean out the house and sell it.
Grandpa died on Father's Day that same year, and Grandma followed him on the Fourth of July.
My own dad died mere weeks before Father's Day as well as my own birthday.
This
year, we made sure to visit Grandma's grave (at least they have a nice
headstone in a nice, grassy, shady spot), and then we wanted to drive by
their old neighborhood and take another look at the old house.
But when we got there, there was no old house to look at anymore.
Everything was gone, including most of the trees and shrubs.
All
that was left was a bunch of dirt, rocks, a few scanty patches of
grass, a mountain of discarded branches, and a good number of tire
tracks in the dirt.
You can imagine the shock
this was to all of us, especially my mom, since that was her childhood
home. She had lived there since she was three years old, and even after
she found her own life, there was no shortage of visits over the years,
and not just on holidays.
The house was as
familiar and safe as any I had ever known. Flashbacks kept playing in
front of my eyes all day long, and even now, I'm still seeing parts of
that house, that backyard, and all that other stuff. I can even see the
old doghouses they kept in one corner of their yard, ages after they
stopped keeping dogs.
Of course, there was
nothing we could have done either way. The house was no longer our legal
property, and according to Mom, it was quite the fixer-upper; there was
a lot of work to do with the wiring and plumbing and such, and maybe
they figured any further maintenance would have cost more than it was
worth. It would have been safer as well as cheaper to simply start over
from scratch.
I suspect the house may have
also sustained some damage from that earthquake we experienced a couple
of months ago, since it was much closer to the epicenter than we were.
Whatever the situation, whatever their reasons for total demolishing, I'm sure their reasons were perfectly valid.
And without Grandma and Grandpa living there anymore, the house was nothing more than an empty shell anyway.
Still, that was something none of us were prepared to see with our own eyes, least of all today, of all days.
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At
least we got to keep some of the things that used to be in that house;
we have some of Grandma and Grandpa's old furniture and we even used
their special dishes for tonight's dinner.
And we still tried to make the most of today. We got Mom some really nice stuff that she loved, and my sister brought all the grandkids over.
Another
thing that makes Grandma and Grandpa's passing more bearable is knowing
they're together again; they were only separated from each other for a
short time, and I really hope Dad's interacting with them now. Contrary
to how most in-laws are depicted, Dad fit into Mom's side of the family
seamlessly. He got along especially well with Grandpa since he'd lost
his own dad as a teenager; I remember how they would tease each other,
always in a good-natured fashion, and on the few occasions when Dad
couldn't join us, Grandpa always sent us home with a batch of his famous
gingersnap cookies, which Dad could never resist.
